ALLOFUS

ALL OF US

WHO/WHEN

THE CAST OF CHARACTERS

Names, birthdays, and marriages, all essential as well and who belongs to whom:

Campbell Allen Harlan 5/30/1907 Columbia Tennessee, died on 6/24/1972 - heart attack

Ivabell Lucille Campbell 9/02/1911 Detroit, Michigan m: 6/29/1932; died on 11/26/1998

John Marshall Harlan 9/23/1933 Detroit, Michigan

Elizabeth Mabel Henninger 9/11/1932 New York, New York m: 2/18/1956 in Birmingham, Michigan

Patricia Gay Harlan 3/22/1957 Royal Oak, Mich, d 11/07/2007 Breast Cancer.

Ivan Joseph LaHaie 5/21/1954 m: 4/19/1980 in Bloomfield Hills, Michigan divorced from LaHaie 1987

Timothy Couch remarried - 12/28/1987 and divorced

James Stewart Schumacher 12/19/1960 m - 08/31/1991

John Forrest Schumacher 04/15/1992

Kathryn Kelly Schumacher 09/10/1993

Diana Lynn Harlan 6/12/1958 Royal Oak, Mich

David Malcolm Stein 12/09/1959 m: 4/16/1983 in Bloomfield Hills, Michigan

Sabrina Fathom Stein 05/??/1996

Sandra Sue Harlan 7/12/1959 Royal Oak, Mich.

Michael Joseph McAndrews 09/19/1957 m: 06/16/1990

Michelle Elizabeth McAndrews 05/26/1991

Jeffrey Harlan McAndrews 07/10/1995

Campbell Allen Harlan, Jr. 11/01/1935 Detroit, Michigan

Sida Christine Lewis 10/17/1936 Sarajevo, Bosnia Herzogovina m: July of 1958, divorced, d. 12/01/1997

Allen Campbell Harlan 3/13/1959 New York, New York

Duncan Campbell Harlan 4/26/1960 Royal Oak, Mich.

Lisa Marie Leino m. 09/19/1987 in Farmington, Michigan

Nicholas Duncan Harlan 04/18/1989

Christine Elise Harlan 01/12/1991

Darcy Anne Harlan 01/12/1991

Ivy Marie Harlan 08/27/1993

Scott Campbell Harlan 4/13/1961 Royal Oak, Mich.

Janeen Cam Harlan 6/12/1962 Royal Oak, Mich.

Louie McClintick Byrd II - m. 03/12/94

Jason James Byrd 10/10/1995

Austen Byrd

d: Krista Cam Harlan – 11/03/1964 Royal Oak, Mich. D, Dec 1964 crib death

Gregory Campbell Harlan 7/10/1967 Royal Oak, Mich.

Lisa Woodward -

Jacob Trent Woodard 12/06/1995

Karen Cam Harlan 1/30/1969 Royal Oak, Mich.

Kyrstal Marie Harlan 07/10/1988 Phoenix, AZ

Jadyn Marie Kleeman 08/21/2009 Phoenix, AZ

Sylvia Annette Harlan 6/11/1937 Detroit, Michigan d: 12/10/1937 - spinal meningitis, Graham negative

Joyce Lily Harlan 5/23/1941 Detroit, Michigan

John Anthony Scott 3/20/---- m: 7/25/1964 divorced 19??

Gregory Marshall Scott 2/27/1967 Boonton, New Jersey.

Sara - divorced

Clayton Marshall Scott 05/15/1997

Cameron Stephen Scott 05/15/1997

Logan Scott

Kirsten Marie Harlan 11/29/1969 Detroit, Michigan

A. Jerry Diesing divorced 2008

James Gregory Harlan 5/22/1945 Puget Sound Naval Hospital

Mary Elizabeth Bunt 9/22/---- m: 12/21/1967 divorced

Jennifer Lynne Elizabeth Harlan 7/01/1969 Pontiac, Michigan

James Michael Gregory Harlan 12/28/1970 Pontiac, Michigan

Margo - divorced 2006?

Susanna Kathrin Elizabeth Bunt-Harlan 05/07/1981 Pontiac, Michigan

Carol

Joseph Duncan Harlan 11/23/1947 Detroit, Michigan

Christina Lou Ostby 9/09/1949 m: 8/10/1968

Stephen Alexander Harlan 8/14/1969 Ann Arbor, Mich.

Jennifer Leigh Waldrop 05/13/1973 m. 12/21/1993 divorced 1999

Joseph Duncan "Chip" Harlan II 1/06/1972 Ann Arbor, Mich.

Jessica Sophia Goldbogen 08/29/???? m. 11/11/2005

Sadie Campbell Harlan 11/06/2006 Atlanta, Georgia

Gillian Francis Harlan 03/03/2010 Atlanta, Georgia

Rebecca Jane Harlan 9/27/1974 Atlanta, Georgia

Benjamin Daniel Adams 06/25/1974 m. 10/07/2000

James "Jamie" Isaac Adams 10-05-2011 Atlanta, Georgia

Sarah Lorain Harlan 5/04/1980 Atlanta, Georgia

Jay Scott Harlan 9/08/1949 Detroit, Michigan

Sonia Derman 4/04/1948 Turkey m: 8/13/1977

Alexander Scott Harlan 6/22/1978 Ann Arbor, Mich.

Vanessa Belle Harlan 8/25/1980 Ann Arbor, Mich.

Sirarpih Derman, 12/31/1907 Mother of Sonia, living in Chicago with Jay and Sonia deceased - 1985

Jeanne Marie Harlan 7/15/1951 Detroit, Michigan

James Kleinsorge - m. ??/??/???? divorced after one year

Jack Marriott - m. 7/30/1986

Jackson Lee Harlan - 10/08/1990

Names are important; you carry them with you all of your life, especially given names. They color the actions of your contemporaries; they shape your reactions; they inspire or they are ignored depending upon your own response. Care should be taken in the own response. Care must be taken in the naming of a child; you make a mark that lasts a lifetime.

There are tales to tell. The Powells. of Pittsburgh waiting the birth of a grandchild, were appalled and amused by what happened to the newest member of that family. The expecting grandfather, John MacFarland, being a man of import in Pittsburgh, was hounded by reporters who kept asking what the name of the baby would be. John MacFarland was absolutely certain that the child would be a boy and that, therefore, there was only one answer: "It shall be called 'John MacFarland'." Who thought to ask the mother? After all it was the grandfather who had left his mark upon the city. So when the baby was born, she became another 'John MacFarland', so she was registered at school, as such in the university, and so she was married. 'Do you, John MacFarland' take this man'....

Her family called her 'Mac' all of her days. Then there are the Grants, fine family with many children, who named one son 'Land' and who threatened to name a daughter 'Emma'; fortunately they didn't.

Names come into style, go out of style; some are urban; some are rural. Some become blasted with the indignity of raucous humor, lose their sex, change their spelling, follow different trends in different times. Professor O.J. Campbell, a U of M Shakespearian authority, confided once that he would dearly have liked to name his son 'Oscar'; a name, which in the homeland had a strong meaning, but which had fallen upon hard times in the humor of the States. Americans have always been slow to accept names that sounded foreign. 'Foreign' in a nation like America? What is foreign? We, northern, react to southern female names. I was amused one day when going in to vote; one of the workers, checking my registration asked, if I had been born in the south. 'Ivabell' simply does not sound local. I have learned to explain that it is a variation of Isabell for I had cousins once-removed who were so named. Talking with a very young man one day, he told me that he was very proud of his given name 'John Marshall' (his father is a lawyer) but not of his last name 'Stalker'. It is up to him to make a mark for that last name; his father is respected and John Marshall Stalker has a good base on which to build their reputations.

So the naming of children must be carefully considered. We had only one problem when naming children - Father! All these children were his to name and so, too, were his grandchildren. John Marshall for the first son was his choice; Patricia Ann if that child was a girl. Campbell Allen for the second son - naturally; no argument. I named the little girl that followed and did not stay: Sylvia for I liked that name; Annette for my Mother's mother. No problem there. Then came the naming of Joyce. Campbell had a girl friend in school and he liked her name; so the new baby was named Joyce and, to please my Father, she was given the middle name after my Father's Mother - Lily. Next came the Navy years and Jim. Allen, far away from home and thinking fondly of an older brother, wanted to name the small one Clyde Abner. No way; that rural name would not do in an urban area such as home. Along with Allen's brother, I have known some very nice 'Clydes'; so often the personality of a person having a name influences your feelings about that name. But like 'Oscar'. 'Clyde' had fallen on hard times. So I temporized; these were the Navy years. Allen was a Lieutenant, junior grade, we would give the boy a name with initials which would be reminders of Allens' service rank - James Gregory. That was all right; Allen had an Uncle Jim of whom he was fond. I'd had an Uncle Jim, too, but that was not a factor to be considered. Allen tried on Clyde's behalf when it was time to name Joe; no way! We would name him after two maternal grandfathers, Joseph Laurencelle and Duncan Campbell. Jay - the same battle. By this time we were so deeply into starting all the names with a 'J', that there was no dispute when Jay and Scott were proposed (after all, Scott Harlan did live in Ambler, Pennsylvania and was a cousin of some importance.) When all points were made, a family name always turned the trick. Came the last little girl and she was mine to name; Jeanne Marie was chosen for the French side of my family.

The naming of the grandchildren was the responsibility of the parents; there was another family's relatives whose names could be used; it might cause some confusion but that could be worked out. I have always enjoyed the southern way of using the first or the middle name between generations sharing the same name, thereby eliminating confusion. Forget Cam and Sida; these children were Grandfather's first grandsons: Allen Campbell (just an inversion of C. Allen's name), the Duke, next Scott Campbell. Son, Campbell, asked no more than to use the name 'Campbell' as a middle name; the two men agreed - that was so nice of them! Sida rather stuck at naming a child 'Duncan'; she could hear it being turned into a nickname. For me that was no problem. He would simply be called 'Duke'. The Duke of Argyle was, more often than not, Duncan Campbell. The names fits for he has the personality of my Father, quite and controlled; the world is his oyster and he will do with it as he wishes. (Except these days, Lisa has an opinion and knows how to settle a dispute!)

From then on C. Allen was too busy to concern himself with the naming of grandchildren. The exception is Stephen whose name had to be spelt with a 'ph', not a 'v' because of an animosity. The second use of Joseph Duncan only substantiated the correctness of Father's earlier decision. With small Sarah's name he was delighted for that was the name, so spelled, of his only and much loved sister; we all loved her for she loved us all. (I'm sure he would have been pleased, Father died 8 years before Sarah was born. Memory can play funny tricks with the passage of time. JDH 09/1997) It was so nice of us to permit Joe and Chris to name Rebecca Jane; it is such a pretty name.

Slowly a pattern was being established among the grandchildren: the middle names chosen were often the given name of an uncle or an aunt such as Gregory Marshall, Kirsten Marie. Alexander Scott carries his Father's given name; Vanessa Belle for the 'bell' in Grandmother's first name; Sarah Lorain were the names of the only Harlan great aunt and of her own maternal grandmother. It really is no trouble to find names for the new ones when they are part of such a large family.

Then came the choice of nicknames; when they are thoughtfully planned they can be fun. Dr. Scholl, German professor (I am certain that I learned more of everything from him -- other than German.) told the class that 'nickname' is a variation of 'eek-name' which means an extra name, a name in addition to...... The giving of nicknames began early on; Campbell immediately became 'Cam'. John was always John (or maybe 'John-Little-John' although he never was little; and Joyce might have been sweetie-pie on occasion but to Mattie she was 'Princess'. The real nicknaming began with the Navy years; Joyce became 'Scuttlebutt'; Jim became 'Gismo'. Joe's nickname, when he was very small, was a variation of part of a song - Beedlebalm; if I recall correctly it was always sung to him - the name, not the song. Jeanne's nick name was very long and for me almost unspellable - doodlebug on the flazmataz eekiebuc. C. Allen imagined that one. Jay was squackasquowk. Just play those last three nicknames over on your old victrola. Some nicknames wear well with the years; others are best forgotten.

Nicknaming the next generation was mostly the business of uncles and aunts. Grandmother Henninger could not abide 'Patricia'; that name changed to Tricia. For me each time I hear Patricia I think of its historic meaning - patrician. Diana - no change; Sandra became, and still is, Sandy. Allen stayed Allen; the Duke was the Duke; but small Scott, who came barreling at you, greeting you with hugs and happiness became Bear (now whenever I find a special bear, it becomes a gift for him). Next Janeen was often called Nanook of the North. Why? Some one must know; I don't. And the Boomer - Gregory Campbell Harlan of course.

Joseph Duncan II became Chipper - not that he was a chip off either of the family's first owners of those names but because he reminded Daddy O (Grandfather Ostby) of what C. Allen, young, must have been.

Some names were simply shortened. Greg - Gregory Scott; K - Kirsten because not even grandmother could order the letters properly; Jenny for Jennifer Lynn; Becky for you can guess whom.

James Michael and Sarah have remained as they were named; some do; some always will.

We discussed this business of nicknames: how they are made, what makes some stick, some fade away, how long can you stand some of them and why do others go so well with gray hair? Some do.

Nicknames - within a family are expressions of love.

Sincerely, Grandmother; today I am great-grandmother -

so old I grow!

Updated September 1997 all additions and changes are in blue